SEXUAL AROUSAL AND RESPONSE IN THE MALE: WHEN THE PREREQUISITES OF SEX ARE NOT MET
The fantasyland culture attributes a unique power to the penis to respond instantaneously like a flash camera, whether one is aroused or not, whether one is in the mood for sex or not. It assumes that your penis should respond and get hard instantaneously. The penis is a very temperamental and obstinate organ and, does exactly the reverse of what is expected of it. It can get erect at odd times or cause a man a sleepless night, or stay mulishly limp when he desperately wants it to be erect! There is not a thing in the world a person can do to make it erect. This happens because most individuals have some prerequisites for erection which are described in detail in Chapter 9, under the section on Foreplay. In some cases the female partner may have to caress it. A man may think that he is abnormal because his organ needs his partner's help. I repeat the penis is not a push-button mechanism and there is nothing wrong for a man to have his prerequisites met.
Men's Health-Erectile Dysfunction